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Title: first real relationship
Post by: anigen on April 12, 2008 09:06 AM
I met this girl a few months ago and we've just started going out - i'm pretty sure she likes me, and I the same. We have a lot in common and it's going very well.
However, i'm still an ameteur when it comes to dating relationships, and girls for that matter. we haven't had any 'akward moments' yet, you know - no prolonged silences, or fights, disagreements .. but i'm afraid someday that might happen if i take a wrong step.
I know it won't be perfect - nothing is. but for example i haven't talked to her for 5 or 6 days now, but sometimes I think it's better to leave someone alone for awhile instead of incessantly calling them and such. We don't go to the same school, so we don't see eachother often.
What is really annoying to a girl? And what's generally unattractive or negative? If anybody has pointers tips, anything. Please tell.
Title: first real relationship
Post by: Sonni on April 12, 2008 09:11 AM
Try to be confidence and decisive most of the time.   Mr. Nice guy NEVER WORKS REALLY WELL.

Phoning her too often is not good but leaving her alone for too long is not good either just try to watch out for that. You'll eventually come across a conflict with each other so be prepared for it. Just keep your cool and you'll be fine.

Title: first real relationship
Post by: fish on April 12, 2008 09:15 AM
I think it's important she sees things the same way you do. You could always just ask her what she thinks, but since most girls are insane this is usually pointless anyway.
Title: first real relationship
Post by: Greenkitten on April 12, 2008 09:26 AM
Quote from: Tommost girls are insane.

This is so very true  
Title: first real relationship
Post by: anigen on April 12, 2008 09:28 AM
Well, sometimes I can be a boring person. Around my friends, they say i'm the funniest and most ecstatic person they've ever met, but when it comes to girls or people i don't really know .. i change. I've been working on that a lot, and I have improved much over the years, but not enough - i'm still not myself, not even in front of her.

I'll call her tomorrow then, and 'pre-plan' the convo. I know what you mean.  
Title: first real relationship
Post by: Gerkinman on April 12, 2008 09:30 AM
lmao

planning
Title: first real relationship
Post by: sQueef on April 12, 2008 09:35 AM
what are you serious I thought this was copy-pasted from some shit.

If this is real just don't be a douche and have fun you're only like 16 or some shit right it's not gonna be the most perfect shit ever. Get your jollies and have a ball I say.
Title: first real relationship
Post by: MRat on April 12, 2008 09:35 AM
If you want a real relationship, the most important thing is to simply be yourself. You have to make sure that she knows exactly who you are and doesn't expect anything else from you.

most relationships are really dishonest, and it's why the divorce rate is so high.


Just be yourself, don't overthink it. If you feel like calling her, call, if you feel like getting her flowers, get her flowers.
Title: first real relationship
Post by: Zee on April 12, 2008 09:41 AM
Aww, you guys are a bunch of sweethearts!
Title: first real relationship
Post by: MRat on April 12, 2008 09:43 AM
And by be yourself, I don't mean ignore her on her birthday because you don't want to buy her something.


A relationship is going to have some times of hard work, haha. Even if you're poor as fuck, and can't afford, try and surprise her, if you can.

If you aren't that kind of guy and really just don't think of those things though, don't sweat it, if she really knows you and is the one for you, she'll accept that about you.
Title: first real relationship
Post by: Crabarms on April 12, 2008 09:45 AM
shoot boy, you dont want to know what crabarms would do in a situation like that.
Title: first real relationship
Post by: Gerkinman on April 12, 2008 09:45 AM
I recomend making money, letting her know you have money. Chicks these days are only interested in money. If she isnt interested in money, she most likely has a penis.
Title: first real relationship
Post by: ZekeySpaceyLizard on April 12, 2008 09:45 AM
you shouldn't read too much into it
Title: first real relationship
Post by: Crabarms on April 12, 2008 09:47 AM
Quote from: GerkinmanI recomend making money, letting her know you have money. Chicks these days are only interested in money. If she isnt interested in money, she most likely has a penis.
I dont think anigens looking for hookers.
Title: first real relationship
Post by: Gerkinman on April 12, 2008 09:48 AM
QuoteI dont think anigens looking for hookers.

Hookers prefer it if you cut out the middle man and just pay them in drugs these days.
Title: first real relationship
Post by: Sonni on April 12, 2008 09:49 AM
My real advice would be to ask your friends in real life who actually have a relationship before or in a relationship.

Lmao MRat, you said exactly like what my friend said.
Title: first real relationship
Post by: MRat on April 12, 2008 09:55 AM
Quote from: SonniLmao MRat, you said exactly like what my friend said.

I've had alot of baaaaad relationships. I'm an expert in what doesn't work. You will never be happy if you can't be yourself.

And she won't be happy if she can't be herself.... I think. Women are horrible machination of doom anyway. I can't understand a thing about them.
Title: first real relationship
Post by: Gerkinman on April 12, 2008 09:58 AM
No seriously, if you barf and she runs away it was never meant to be, if you barf and she comes back shes yours to keep.

Courtesy of Wayne's World
Title: first real relationship
Post by: wps on April 12, 2008 10:20 AM
girls are the parasites the gods cursed us with!
Title: first real relationship
Post by: sQueef on April 12, 2008 10:39 AM
why did i post that
Title: first real relationship
Post by: zomfgbie on April 12, 2008 12:34 PM
Listen to your first instinct, then do exactly the fucking opposite.

You might think women are the same species cause they walk upright and talk to you from time to time, but they\\\'re not.
Title: first real relationship
Post by: psi43 on April 12, 2008 12:39 PM
um, you ask these questions on the internet, on a forum..? Oh well. Try to be funny and not like you're on aim most of the time. I doubt they'd like dick jokes.
Title: first real relationship
Post by: wps on April 12, 2008 12:54 PM
what's her skincolour?
Title: first real relationship
Post by: zomfgbie on April 12, 2008 01:04 PM
i think wallys going somewhere with this..
Title: first real relationship
Post by: psi43 on April 12, 2008 01:15 PM
if she's black, offer her to tear down walls together
Title: first real relationship
Post by: mishkamash on April 12, 2008 01:54 PM
well this topic is spiffy
Title: first real relationship
Post by: LordZeebmork on April 12, 2008 02:14 PM
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Title: first real relationship
Post by: CoolDrMoney on April 12, 2008 04:53 PM
Make sure you tell her you love her right away. You should always do nice things like if you see her walking in the hallway say HI and thats it. Continue these two things everyday as well as tell her your jealous of every guy she ever mentions and you will go the distance kiddo.

Arent you 13? Man that too soon for a relationship! It don't or shouldn't mean shit at your age
Title: first real relationship
Post by: MRat on April 12, 2008 05:02 PM
Yeah just fuck her and get it over with.
Title: first real relationship
Post by: psi43 on April 12, 2008 05:05 PM
Anigen, get her pregnant.
Title: first real relationship
Post by: CoolDrMoney on April 12, 2008 05:09 PM
QuoteAnigen, get her pregnant.
Title: first real relationship
Post by: rtil on April 12, 2008 05:27 PM
i thought this was gonna be a joke topic
Title: first real relationship
Post by: psi43 on April 12, 2008 05:39 PM
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If anyone here doesn\\\'t get the joke, I WON\\\'T EXPLAIN IT OK
Title: first real relationship
Post by: anigen on April 12, 2008 05:39 PM
Well, thank you, this is all appreciated.
Also, I was thinking about asking her to a dance. Is it too early?
And as well -- if I go to this dance, I might have to double-date with my sister. It's a long story how that is a huge possibility, and i'm pretty sure that's a baaaaaad idea. I shouldn't go through with it if I have to do that, huh?
Title: first real relationship
Post by: trent bortknob on April 12, 2008 05:43 PM
asking her to dance aww thats so romantic bro !!

but seriously asking her if she wants to dance what kind of gay shit is that
Title: first real relationship
Post by: psi43 on April 12, 2008 05:43 PM
lmfao I fucking knew that I read this before
Title: first real relationship
Post by: trent bortknob on April 12, 2008 05:43 PM
oh shit did i fall for something
Title: first real relationship
Post by: anigen on April 12, 2008 05:44 PM
Quote from: taylorasking her to dance aww thats so romantic bro !!

but seriously asking her if she wants to dance what kind of gay shit is that

Wow - you are right. I would have never thought of it that way.
I'm still ready to learn a lot on my own - yes this girl is very special to me .. that's why i'm afraid of making mistakes. :|
Title: first real relationship
Post by: MRat on April 12, 2008 05:54 PM
yeah im laughing.
Title: first real relationship
Post by: f0d on April 12, 2008 05:59 PM
Quote from: ΨNicolelmfao I fucking knew that I read this before
ooh for a second there i actually thought anigen had a girl
Title: first real relationship
Post by: rtil on April 12, 2008 06:02 PM
oh my god
Title: first real relationship
Post by: psi43 on April 12, 2008 06:11 PM
Quote from: rtiloh my god


Title: first real relationship
Post by: cr0m on April 12, 2008 06:11 PM
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Title: first real relationship
Post by: f0d on April 12, 2008 06:12 PM
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rude ass


i hope a guest clicks minigirls eheheh
Title: first real relationship
Post by: cr0m on April 12, 2008 06:16 PM
this place has a fuckload of guests
Title: first real relationship
Post by: wps on April 12, 2008 06:20 PM
you a sneaky cromo
Title: first real relationship
Post by: Loathsome on April 12, 2008 06:21 PM
You shouldn't be asking something like that here, really.

Oh well. Don't plan shit, be yourself. You can't fool her to believe you're always so prepared for every meeting. Things goes wrong, things goes right you can't really do something about it. It's always best to just be yourself and go with the flow. If she likes you, awesome. If she doesn't, well too bad, move on.
Title: first real relationship
Post by: wps on April 12, 2008 06:24 PM
Quote from: LoathsomeYou shouldn't be asking something like that here, really.

Oh well. Don't plan shit, be yourself. You can't fool her to believe you're always so prepared for every meeting. Things goes wrong, things goes right you can't really do something about it. It's always best to just be yourself and go with the flow. If she likes you, awesome. If she doesn't, well too bad, move on.
THANK YOU LOATHSOME FOR THE HEART-WARMING AND INSPIRING MESSAGE
NOW GO AWAY
Title: first real relationship
Post by: psi43 on April 12, 2008 06:25 PM
loathsome read the topic
Title: first real relationship
Post by: Sonni on April 12, 2008 06:27 PM
Damn it, you got me there anigen.
Title: first real relationship
Post by: CoolDrMoney on April 12, 2008 07:24 PM
I fell for it :(
Title: first real relationship
Post by: anigen on April 12, 2008 07:32 PM
most of you did fall for it

but this isnt about you its about another person who i was trying to see their reaction to

but because his ass is no longer tight like it was when i found him, his name will be left anonymous

close topic
Title: first real relationship
Post by: cr0m on April 12, 2008 07:57 PM
Quote from: anigenbut because his ass is no longer tight like it was when i found him, his name will be left anonymous

man i hate wen dat happens...
Title: first real relationship
Post by: texas on April 12, 2008 08:36 PM
one thing that kind of gave it away was the way you typed but i still fell for it
Title: first real relationship
Post by: MRat on April 12, 2008 08:47 PM
Quote from: kianone thing that kind of gave it away was the way you typed but i still fell for it

then you're still missing part of the joke.
Title: first real relationship
Post by: Loathsome on April 12, 2008 08:59 PM
Quote from: ΨNicoleloathsome read the topic

I know everyone is being sarcastic and joking around. I wasn't even sure if Anigen was being serious or not. However, I can't stand being sarcastic all the time, though.